Comments for Well Honestly Now http://www.wellhonestlynow.com The brutal truth you need to hear... Mon, 25 Jan 2010 05:08:02 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.1 hourly 1 Comment on Advice Needed: How Do I Wash My Hands Of This Problem? by Symptoms Of Panic Attacks http://www.wellhonestlynow.com/?p=1445&cpage=1#comment-10444 Symptoms Of Panic Attacks Mon, 25 Jan 2010 05:08:02 +0000 http://www.wellhonestlynow.com/?p=1445#comment-10444 This is disgusting tell your husband to practice some basic hygiene skills. This is disgusting tell your husband to practice some basic hygiene skills.

]]> Comment on Am I Overreacting? by Angelica http://www.wellhonestlynow.com/?p=1605&cpage=1#comment-10288 Angelica Tue, 12 Jan 2010 20:04:57 +0000 http://www.wellhonestlynow.com/?p=1605#comment-10288 I could've written everything you just said. I am married to my soul mate. The love of my life. We met at work. He was my boss. He was "single", he was in the process of ending a 3 year relationship with a girl whom he lived with prior to being transferred to Miami, where we met. She traveled to visit and to "try and make things work". (she also worked for the same company, so she came for business too) My husband and I didnt start dating until everything was "over" with this girl. But "over" is a weird and fuzzy line. They spoke- they werent ready to say goodbye. They loved each other once, and that can be a powerful thing. I can rant and go one about the fights we had over this, one big one right before our wedding. I used to say the same thing, how we have a meaningful relationship based on LIES!! I remember one time he went to visit her in her hotel (nothing happened) and then came to see me. ( we had a friend in common, so I would find out everything! YUK!). Then I decided to LET IT GO. Fuck it. He is with me now. JUST GET OVER IT. Write down and then burn it. He is not with her, he is not seeing her. Like every good man he is afraid of his angry wife, so he didnt tell you about meetings or delays. My husband and I are raising my oldest from a previous relationship, and have two more of our own. He is a great father, a wonderful husband who lets me be my crazy ass self, and loves me anyway. Your husband has wonderful qualities. Relish them. You cannot change the wedding in vegas, so fuck it. Go renew your vows somewhere, a new place! My final thoughts are- your are understanbly angry, but move on. Remember what you liked and fell in love with him for. I remember thinking I was never going to be able to get over the bullshit, that I would be angry forever. But the moment I decided to let it go, it was ovah!!! Good luck! I could’ve written everything you just said. I am married to my soul mate. The love of my life. We met at work. He was my boss. He was “single”, he was in the process of ending a 3 year relationship with a girl whom he lived with prior to being transferred to Miami, where we met. She traveled to visit and to “try and make things work”. (she also worked for the same company, so she came for business too) My husband and I didnt start dating until everything was “over” with this girl. But “over” is a weird and fuzzy line. They spoke- they werent ready to say goodbye. They loved each other once, and that can be a powerful thing. I can rant and go one about the fights we had over this, one big one right before our wedding. I used to say the same thing, how we have a meaningful relationship based on LIES!! I remember one time he went to visit her in her hotel (nothing happened) and then came to see me. ( we had a friend in common, so I would find out everything! YUK!). Then I decided to LET IT GO. Fuck it. He is with me now. JUST GET OVER IT. Write down and then burn it. He is not with her, he is not seeing her. Like every good man he is afraid of his angry wife, so he didnt tell you about meetings or delays. My husband and I are raising my oldest from a previous relationship, and have two more of our own. He is a great father, a wonderful husband who lets me be my crazy ass self, and loves me anyway. Your husband has wonderful qualities. Relish them. You cannot change the wedding in vegas, so fuck it. Go renew your vows somewhere, a new place! My final thoughts are- your are understanbly angry, but move on. Remember what you liked and fell in love with him for. I remember thinking I was never going to be able to get over the bullshit, that I would be angry forever. But the moment I decided to let it go, it was ovah!!! Good luck!

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]]> Comment on And, We’re Back! by Monique http://www.wellhonestlynow.com/?p=1593&cpage=1#comment-10266 Monique Fri, 08 Jan 2010 22:41:12 +0000 http://www.wellhonestlynow.com/?p=1593#comment-10266 I'd love to read more of your advice. Please don't stop! I’d love to read more of your advice. Please don’t stop!

]]> Comment on Advice Needed: How Will I Trust My Husband Again? by KLo http://www.wellhonestlynow.com/?p=1192&cpage=1#comment-10239 KLo Tue, 05 Jan 2010 03:25:11 +0000 http://www.wellhonestlynow.com/?p=1192#comment-10239 Wendie, Wow, I cannot believe I was ever this naive ... I was checking out your new updates and figured I'd reread what you responded to my issue. Yeah, you were right on here. Like, right.on. :) Although I try hard to maintain a civil relationship with him out of respect for my children, we got to the point (after about fifty trips on and off the wagon, escalating emotional abuse, eventual physical abuse, and his two DWIs within a week of each other) where I realized that he wasn't willing and/or able to change. He wouldn't use Antabuse or one of the monitoring systems, either. That spoke volumes. It's always difficult when things change suddenly in a way you never expected. However, I've learned to rely on myself, to enjoy the great things in my life far more than I ever did, and that there are endless opportunities for happiness and humor in life. It's too short for (sorry, I gotta say it) cheap wine. Anyway, thanks again for your great advice, for me and for the many others on here. You're wonderful :) xx, K. Wendie,

Wow, I cannot believe I was ever this naive …

I was checking out your new updates and figured I’d reread what you responded to my issue. Yeah, you were right on here. Like, right.on. :)

Although I try hard to maintain a civil relationship with him out of respect for my children, we got to the point (after about fifty trips on and off the wagon, escalating emotional abuse, eventual physical abuse, and his two DWIs within a week of each other) where I realized that he wasn’t willing and/or able to change. He wouldn’t use Antabuse or one of the monitoring systems, either. That spoke volumes.

It’s always difficult when things change suddenly in a way you never expected. However, I’ve learned to rely on myself, to enjoy the great things in my life far more than I ever did, and that there are endless opportunities for happiness and humor in life. It’s too short for (sorry, I gotta say it) cheap wine.

Anyway, thanks again for your great advice, for me and for the many others on here. You’re wonderful :)

xx,
K.

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